來(lái)自美國(guó)的講座青春期教育面對(duì)青春的沖動(dòng),為什么要等待

1、面對(duì)青春的沖動(dòng), 我們?yōu)槭裁葱枰却? ___致處于青春期的青少年,Why Wait? 為什么要等待,Why Wait? 為什么要等待,Rules protect us!保護(hù)我們的原則,Why Wait? 為什么要等待,Rules protect us!保護(hù)我們的原則,I.First protective wall – Physical

2、reasons 第一道保護(hù)的城墻——身體原因,Why Wait? 為什么要等待,Rules protect us!保護(hù)我們的原則,I.First protective wall – Physical reasons 第一道保護(hù)的城墻——身體原因,A.Physical Reason #1: Protection from hurting our own bodies 身體原因1：避免自

3、己的身體受到傷害,B.Physical Reason #2: Protection from an addiction to premarital sex身體原因2：避免沉溺于婚前性行為而不能自拔,B.Physical Reason #2: Protection from an addiction to premarital sex身體原因2：避免沉溺于婚前性行為而不能自拔,C.Physic

4、al Reason #3: Protection from sexually transmitted diseases (STD's)身體原因3：避免感染性病,D.Physical Reason #4: Protection against unwanted pregnancy and abortion身體原因4：避免造成意外懷孕及流產(chǎn),D.Physical Reason #4: Prot

5、ection against unwanted pregnancy and abortion身體原因4：避免造成意外懷孕及流產(chǎn),E.Physical Reason # 5: Providing for beauty in the marriage relationship身體原因5：為婚姻關(guān)系提供美好的享受,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE WALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS

6、第二道保護(hù)的城墻— —情感原因,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE WALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS第二道保護(hù)的城墻— —情感原因,A.Emotional Reason #1: Protection from having our acceptance based on our performance情感原因1：避免建立在行為基礎(chǔ)上的接受,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE W

7、ALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS第二道保護(hù)的城墻— —情感原因,A.Emotional Reason #1: Protection from having our acceptance based on our performance情感原因1：避免建立在行為基礎(chǔ)上的接受,B.Emotional Reason #2: Protection from guilt 情感原因2：避免犯罪,

8、C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免誤會(huì)的感情,C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免誤會(huì)的感情,D.Emotional Reason #4: Protection from the hardships of br

9、eaking up情感原因4：避免面對(duì)分手的艱難,C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免誤會(huì)的感情,D.Emotional Reason #4: Protection from the hardships of breaking up情感原因4：避免面對(duì)分手的艱難,E.Emotional Reason #5: P

10、rotection from psychological and emotional distress情感原因5：避免心理和情感上的憂傷,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保護(hù)自尊,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保護(hù)自尊,G.E

11、motional Reason #7: Provides for the richness of maturity 情感原因7：擁有成熟的情感,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保護(hù)自尊,G.Emotional Reason #7: Provides for the richness of maturity 情感原因

12、7：擁有成熟的情感,H.Emotional Reason #8: Provides an affirmation of our dignity情感原因8：對(duì)個(gè)人尊嚴(yán)的肯定,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：擁有共同的回憶,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：

13、擁有共同的回憶,III.THIRD PROTECTIVE WALL - RELATIONAL REASONS第三道保護(hù)城墻— —相關(guān)原因,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：擁有共同的回憶,III.THIRD PROTECTIVE WALL - RELATIONAL REASONS第三道保護(hù)城墻— —相關(guān)原因,A.Relationa

14、l Reason #1: Protection from communication breakdowns相關(guān)原因1：避免交流障礙,B.Relational Reason #2: Protection from difficult courtships相關(guān)原因2：避免求愛(ài)受挫,,B.Relational Reason #2: Protection from difficult courtships相

15、關(guān)原因2：避免求愛(ài)受挫,C.Relational Reason #3: Protection from an involuntary comparison of former sexual partners相關(guān)原因3：避免不知不覺(jué)地與之前的性伴侶進(jìn)行對(duì)比,,D.Relational Reason #4: Protection from damaged family relationships

16、相關(guān)原因4：避免破碎的家庭關(guān)系,D.Relational Reason #4: Protection from damaged family relationships相關(guān)原因4：避免破碎的家庭關(guān)系,E.Relational Reason #5: Provides for a special relationship found only in marriage相關(guān)原因5：只在婚姻中擁有

17、這種特殊的關(guān)系基礎(chǔ),IV.FOURTH WALL OF PROTECTION –MORAL/SPIRITUAL REASONS第四道保護(hù)的城墻— —道德/心靈原因,IV.FOURTH WALL OF PROTECTION –MORAL/SPIRITUAL REASONS第四道保護(hù)的城墻— —道德/心靈原因,A.Moral/Spiritual Reason #1: Protection of our value

18、 and dignity道德/心靈原因1：價(jià)值觀和尊嚴(yán)的保護(hù),B.Moral/Spiritual Reason #2: Demonstrate respect, patience, and self-control道德/心靈原因2：表現(xiàn)出尊重、耐心和自制,B.Moral/Spiritual Reason #2: Demonstrate respect, patience, and

19、 self-control道德/心靈原因2：表現(xiàn)出尊重、耐心和自制,C.Moral/Spiritual Reason #3: Provides a stronger love. 道德/心靈原因3：擁有堅(jiān)貞的愛(ài)情,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常見(jiàn)的辯論,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常見(jiàn)的辯論,A.

20、How do we know we suit each other unless we have sex together before marriage? 婚前若沒(méi)有發(fā)生性關(guān)系怎么知道我們是否合適？,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常見(jiàn)的辯論,A.How do we know we suit each other unless we have sex

21、together before marriage? 婚前若沒(méi)有發(fā)生性關(guān)系怎么知道我們是否合適？,B.I'll go crazy if I don't sleep with someone! 不和那個(gè)人發(fā)生關(guān)系我會(huì)受不了！,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH SEXUAL PRESSURE?我們?cè)鯓討?yīng)對(duì)性沖動(dòng)？,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH

22、SEXUAL PRESSURE?我們?cè)鯓討?yīng)對(duì)性沖動(dòng)？,1.Principle #l: Set standards beforehand.原則1：預(yù)先設(shè)立一些規(guī)定。,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH SEXUAL PRESSURE?我們?cè)鯓討?yīng)對(duì)性沖動(dòng)？,1.Principle #l: Set standards beforehand.原則1：預(yù)先設(shè)立一些規(guī)定。

23、,2.Principle #2: Be accountable原則2：負(fù)責(zé)任,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原則3：避免接觸有性導(dǎo)向的媒體,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原則3：避免接觸有性導(dǎo)向的媒體,4.Principle #4: Choose c

24、ompanions carefully原則4：選擇同伴要謹(jǐn)慎,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原則3：避免接觸有性導(dǎo)向的媒體,4.Principle #4: Choose companions carefully原則4：選擇同伴要謹(jǐn)慎,5.Principle #5: Seek other people’s wisdom

25、原則5：學(xué)習(xí)別人的智慧,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的積極因素,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的積極因素,1.Abstinence protects you from both the fear of and the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases (STD‘s). 節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受對(duì)性傳染疾病的恐懼

26、和后果。,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的積極因素,1.Abstinence protects you from both the fear of and the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases (STD‘s). 節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受對(duì)性傳染疾病的恐懼和后果。,2.Abstinence frees you from the fear an

27、d consequences of pregnancy. 節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受懷孕的恐慌和后果。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control methods. 節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)采用各種避孕手段的危險(xiǎn)之中。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control

28、 methods. 節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)采用各種避孕手段的危險(xiǎn)之中。,4. Abstinence frees you from the trauma of abortion.節(jié)制使你免受流產(chǎn)的痛苦。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control methods. 節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)采用各種避孕手段的危險(xiǎn)之中。,4. Abstin

29、ence frees you from the trauma of abortion.節(jié)制使你免受流產(chǎn)的痛苦。,5.Abstinence protects you from sexual addiction.節(jié)制使你免于沉溺于性,6.Abstinence frees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)沒(méi)做好準(zhǔn)

30、備就結(jié)婚的壓力。,,6.Abstinence frees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)沒(méi)做好準(zhǔn)備就結(jié)婚的壓力。,,7.Abstinence frees you from being valued on a performance basis. 節(jié)制使你不必因著行為而被人評(píng)價(jià)。,6.Abstinence f

31、rees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.節(jié)制使你免于面對(duì)沒(méi)做好準(zhǔn)備就結(jié)婚的壓力。,,7.Abstinence frees you from being valued on a performance basis. 節(jié)制使你不必因著行為而被人評(píng)價(jià)。,8.Abstinence protects you from comparison

32、 later in marriage.節(jié)制使你免于在婚后被拿來(lái)對(duì)比。,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 節(jié)制可以保護(hù)你最敏感的性器官— —情緒,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 節(jié)制可以保護(hù)你最敏感的性器官— —情緒,10.

33、 Abstinence protects you from feelings that can mislead you. 節(jié)制可以使你擺脫誤導(dǎo)你的感情。,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 節(jié)制可以保護(hù)你最敏感的性器官— —情緒,Abstinence protects you from feelings that

34、 can mislead you. 節(jié)制可以使你擺脫誤導(dǎo)你的感情。,11.Abstinence protects you from sustaining "bad" relationships. 節(jié)制使你不必維持不好的關(guān)系。,12.Abstinence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for ad

35、option.節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受因流產(chǎn)而放棄自己孩子的打擊。,12.Abstinence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for adoption.節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受因流產(chǎn)而放棄自己孩子的打擊。,13. Abstinence helps you avoid deep scars. 節(jié)制幫你避免留下深深的傷疤。,12.Abst

36、inence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for adoption.節(jié)制使你免于經(jīng)受因流產(chǎn)而放棄自己孩子的打擊。,13. Abstinence helps you avoid deep scars. 節(jié)制幫你避免留下深深的傷疤。,14.Abstinence provides a basis of trust.節(jié)制提供了信任的基

37、礎(chǔ)。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.節(jié)制幫助你懂得尊重生活。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.節(jié)制幫助你懂得尊重生活。,16.Abstinence frees you to focus your energy on establishing and realizing lif

38、e goals. 節(jié)制使你能專心在建立并實(shí)現(xiàn)生活目標(biāo)之上。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.節(jié)制幫助你懂得尊重生活。,16.Abstinence frees you to focus your energy on establishing and realizing life goals. 節(jié)制使你能專心在建立并實(shí)現(xiàn)生活目標(biāo)之上。,17.A

39、bstinence gives freedom from guilt. 節(jié)制使人從罪中解脫出來(lái)。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.節(jié)制有助于培養(yǎng)不自私的敏感性。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.節(jié)制有助于培養(yǎng)不自私的敏感性。,19.Abstinence enhanc

40、es true communication in a relationship.節(jié)制在關(guān)系中加強(qiáng)了真正意義上的溝通。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.節(jié)制有助于培養(yǎng)不自私的敏感性。,19.Abstinence enhances true communication in a relationship.節(jié)制在關(guān)系中加強(qiáng)了真正意義上的溝通。,2

41、0.Abstinence helps build patience and self-control.節(jié)制有助于培養(yǎng)耐心和自制能力。,Sex is worth waiting for!,21.Abstinence helps to enhance the special relationship found only in marriage.節(jié)制有助于加強(qiáng)婚姻中的特殊關(guān)系基礎(chǔ)。,21.Abstinence h

42、elps to enhance the special relationship found only in marriage.節(jié)制有助于加強(qiáng)婚姻中的特殊關(guān)系基礎(chǔ)。,22.Abstinence helps develop positive principles of relational growth. 節(jié)制有助于發(fā)展關(guān)系成長(zhǎng)的積極原則。,21.Abstinence helps to enhance the

43、special relationship found only in marriage.節(jié)制有助于加強(qiáng)婚姻中的特殊關(guān)系基礎(chǔ)。,23.Abstinence provides freedom to enjoy being a young person. 節(jié)制提供了享受作年輕人的自由。,22.Abstinence helps develop positive principles of relational growth.

44、 節(jié)制有助于發(fā)展關(guān)系成長(zhǎng)的積極原則。,24.Abstinence provides one of the greatest gifts of true love-virginity.節(jié)制提供了真愛(ài)的最好禮物之一 — —貞操,24.Abstinence provides one of the greatest gifts of true love-virginity.節(jié)制提供了真愛(ài)的最好禮物之一 — —貞操,25.

45、Abstinence helps increase self-esteem. 節(jié)制有助于提高自尊。,24.Abstinence provides one of the greatest gifts of true love-virginity.節(jié)制提供了真愛(ài)的最好禮物之一 — —貞操,25.Abstinence helps increase self-esteem. 節(jié)制有助于提高自尊。,26.Abstinenc

46、e can be a good "test" of love. 節(jié)制可以是愛(ài)情的一個(gè)很好的“試卷”。,27.Abstinence can make you a better lover.節(jié)制可以使你成為一個(gè)更好的愛(ài)人。,27.Abstinence can make you a better lover.節(jié)制可以使你成為一個(gè)更好的愛(ài)人。,28.Abstinence can be an ex