哈佛大學(xué)幸福課21課中英文雙語(yǔ)字幕筆記

1、Harvard Positive Psychology 21Relationship and Self-esteem You know this story about Gertrude Stein, and she was taking philosophy class with William James, right here in the Art.你們都聽過(guò)格特魯?shù)?斯泰因的這個(gè)故事，她那時(shí)上 William James 的哲學(xué)

2、課，就在哈佛拉德克利夫?qū)W院。And they had their final exam. And it was spring semester course. And she comes into the exam. And it’s a day like today.要期末考試了，她上的是春季班，她來(lái)到考場(chǎng)，就跟今天一樣是個(gè)晴朗的日子。And the exam is about metaphysics, and the meaning

3、 of life. So she opens the exam and writes, “Today is too beautiful a day to take an exam.” And she walks out.于是她打開試卷，寫道：“多么美好的一天，不應(yīng)該浪費(fèi)在考試上?！比缓笞叱隽私淌摇nd you know, as legend has it of course she gets a straight A in Willi

4、am James’ class.而且傳說(shuō) William James 的課程她全 A 通過(guò)。approach.先回顧一下上回講到的關(guān)于愛情的內(nèi)容。我講到了人類要如何...考慮到人的本性，人類要如何獲得，維持長(zhǎng)久的愛情與激情，因?yàn)閺男睦韺W(xué)角度看，這似乎有違人的本性。And we talked about when studying the best relationships, the “tip of the stem” four cha

5、racteristics, based on the work of David Schnarch and John Gottman.當(dāng)我們講到研究那些最成功的戀情時(shí)，最成功的戀情有四個(gè)特點(diǎn)，根據(jù) David Schnarch 和 John Gottman 的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)的。The first one is: relationship is the hard work. It’s an illusion to think that the

6、most important thing is finding the right relationship. It is more important to cultivate that one chosen relationship.第一條是：經(jīng)營(yíng)愛情需要付出努力。人們往往誤以為尋找最合適的愛情對(duì)象是最重要的，其實(shí)更重要的是如何經(jīng)營(yíng)你選擇的愛情。And just like we would not thrive, succeed a