哈佛大學(xué)幸福課21課中英文雙語(yǔ)字幕筆記

1、Harvard Positive Psychology 21Relationship and Self-esteem You know this story about Gertrude Stein, and she was taking philosophy class with William James, right here in the Art.你們都聽(tīng)過(guò)格特魯?shù)?斯泰因的這個(gè)故事，她那時(shí)上 William James 的哲學(xué)

2、課，就在哈佛拉德克利夫?qū)W院。And they had their final exam. And it was spring semester course. And she comes into the exam. And it’s a day like today.要期末考試了，她上的是春季班，她來(lái)到考場(chǎng)，就跟今天一樣是個(gè)晴朗的日子。And the exam is about metaphysics, and the meaning

3、 of life. So she opens the exam and writes, “Today is too beautiful a day to take an exam.” And she walks out.于是她打開(kāi)試卷，寫(xiě)道：“多么美好的一天，不應(yīng)該浪費(fèi)在考試上?！比缓笞叱隽私淌摇nd you know, as legend has it of course she gets a straight A in Willi

4、am James’ class.而且傳說(shuō) William James 的課程她全 A 通過(guò)。approach.先回顧一下上回講到的關(guān)于愛(ài)情的內(nèi)容。我講到了人類要如何...考慮到人的本性，人類要如何獲得，維持長(zhǎng)久的愛(ài)情與激情，因?yàn)閺男睦韺W(xué)角度看，這似乎有違人的本性。And we talked about when studying the best relationships, the “tip of the stem” four cha

5、racteristics, based on the work of David Schnarch and John Gottman.當(dāng)我們講到研究那些最成功的戀情時(shí)，最成功的戀情有四個(gè)特點(diǎn)，根據(jù) David Schnarch 和 John Gottman 的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)的。The first one is: relationship is the hard work. It’s an illusion to think that the

6、most important thing is finding the right relationship. It is more important to cultivate that one chosen relationship.第一條是：經(jīng)營(yíng)愛(ài)情需要付出努力。人們往往誤以為尋找最合適的愛(ài)情對(duì)象是最重要的，其實(shí)更重要的是如何經(jīng)營(yíng)你選擇的愛(ài)情。And just like we would not thrive, succeed a