直升機(jī)型父母

1、<p><b>　　直升機(jī)型父母</b></p><p>　　By joanne Leuy-Prewitt </p><p>　　Do you know parents of high schoolstudents who come to the rescue whenever theirson or daughter is in a tough spot?

2、 Are they stilldelivering forgotten lunches or gym clothes toschool? Have they tried to negotiate with theschool for a different teacher or a better grade? </p><p>　　If so, they may be helicopter parents. &l

3、t;/p><p>　　Helicopter parents hover and swoop in torescue their children from any adversity. Collegeadmissions offices began using this moniker afew years ago when they noticed that parentswere becoming increas

4、ingly involved in the dailylives of their college-age children. </p><p>　　Helicopter parents are problematic atdifferent stages of development. For youngchildren, constant hovering can inhibit a child’sabili

5、ty to develop his or her own motivation,self-confidence of sense of responsibility. Whyshould Johnny make the effort to remember histrombone if he knows that dad will bring it toschool? Cell phones, even for young childr

6、en,have made this type of communication andrequest for help common. </p><p>　　However, helicopter parents pose differentproblems for high school students. High schoolstudents are trying to separate and indiv

7、iduatefrom their parents, and parents who can’t let gocan inhibit that process. </p><p>　　Moreover, students who haven't had theopportunity to navigate their own obstacles-whether social of academic-emer

8、ge fromadolescence ill-equipped to handle the demandsof college and adulthood. </p><p>　　Helicopter parents of high school studentsare often over-involved because they are caughtup in the competitive admissi

9、ons frenzy and fearthat their children won't end up at the “right”college. As a response, they orchestrate andmicro-manage every teacher, class and activityin which their child participates-from birththrough high sch

10、ool--to ensure that they’ll haveeverything they need for admission to the “best”college. </p><p>　　I’m not advocating a complete hands-off approach from parents either. Obviously,children who have attentive,

11、 loving and involvedparents thrive both in school and in life. I don’tthink it’s a crime to bring a lunch to school onoccasion, nor do ! think parents should adopt alaissez-faire attitude about college preparation. </

12、p><p>　　However, I think that it’s wise to be mindfulof the importance of teaching self-reliangceand responsibility, and that requires backingoff a little and letting students-of all ages-experience the life le

13、ssons and consequences oftheir actions. A student in middle school whoearns that late homework will lead to a loweredgrade will be far better off than a student wholearns that lesson in high school. </p><p>

14、　　你知道有這樣的高中生父母么，每當(dāng)兒女陷入困境，他們就去幫忙?他們還在把孩子忘記帶的午餐或體操服送到學(xué)校嗎?他們是不是還曾試圖為孩子更換老師或換個(gè)更好的評分而與學(xué)校協(xié)商? </p><p>　　如果是這樣，那么他們可能就是“直升機(jī)型父母”。 </p><p>　　直升機(jī)型父母隨叫隨到，以幫助他們的孩子脫離困境。幾年以前，當(dāng)大學(xué)招生辦公室注意到父母越來越多地介入大學(xué)學(xué)齡子女的日常生活時(shí)，他

15、們就開始使用這個(gè)綽號。 </p><p>　　直升機(jī)型父母會在孩子不同的成長階段造成很多問題。對于年幼的孩子，如果父母總是隨叫隨到，會妨礙孩子培養(yǎng)主動性、自信心或責(zé)任感。如果約翰知道爸爸會把長號帶到學(xué)校，他又何必將此事掛記于心?手機(jī)――甚至對孩子來說――已經(jīng)使這種交流和求助變得很普遍了。 </p><p>　　然而，直升機(jī)型父母給高中生造成了不同的問題。高中生正試圖脫離他們的父母，形成自己

16、的個(gè)性，不愿放手的父母會阻礙這個(gè)過程。 </p><p>　　此外，一直沒有機(jī)會自己排除障礙――不管是社會交往方面還是學(xué)業(yè)方面的障礙――的學(xué)生一旦走出青少年時(shí)期，往往會在應(yīng)對大學(xué)和成年時(shí)期的種種困境時(shí)顯得能力不足。 </p><p>　　高中生的直升機(jī)型父母經(jīng)常過分介入孩子的生活，因?yàn)樗麄儽痪砣敫偁幖ち业恼猩鸁岢敝?，?dān)心他們的孩子最后會無法進(jìn)入“理想的”大學(xué)。作為回應(yīng)，他們精心安排、細(xì)節(jié)管

17、理孩子的每位老師、每門課程以及參加的每項(xiàng)活動――從出生到高中――來確保孩子擁有進(jìn)入“最好的”大學(xué)所需要的一切。 </p><p>　　我并不是主張父母完全放手的做法。顯然，有父母的體貼、關(guān)愛、積極參與，孩子就會在學(xué)習(xí)和生活兩方面健康發(fā)展。我既不認(rèn)為父母偶爾把午餐送到學(xué)校是一種罪過，也不認(rèn)為父母應(yīng)該對孩子上大學(xué)的準(zhǔn)備工作采取自由放任的態(tài)度。 </p><p>　　然而，我認(rèn)為明智的做法是不要